Learning about sex can be considered taboo in any culture, but the way individuals of different races learn about the subject may affect their sexual relationships as they get older.
According to Dr. Gail Wyatt, sex therapist and professor of psychiatry and behavioral science in the African-American community, “(G)irls receive the impression that asking or learning about sex is impolite, rude or unladylike and sex should not be discussed with anyone, even with adults who can be trusted.”
[uno] Wyatt also points out the differences between the sexual education received by African-American girls and white girls. According to her, adolescent white girls are more likely to learn a little information about sex directly from their parents, while adolescent girls from minority ethnicities are more apt to learn about sex from movies, magazines or friends.
“I never learned about sex from my parents,” accounting freshman Ashley Balko said. “I just figured it out from friends and on my own.” Sex is one of the most difficult subjects parents of any ethnicity have to discuss with their children. Society has tended to make sex a taboo subject with sexual images on “The Bachelor” and “MTV’s Spring Break” dominating the airwaves.
However, psychology freshman Aja Casey’s parents, who are African-American, didn’t approach her about sex until approximately eight months into her first serious relationship, when she was 16. “We really didn’t talk about it unless I brought it up,” Casey said. “Since I grew up in the church, my parents always put in me to wait (to have sex) until I’m married. They never said anything about abortions.”
In this respect, perhaps the gender of a child may also affect the way most parents approach him or her about sex. Most men report receiving little or no information about sex from their parents; instead, like many others, they learned about it from the media. (NEED A QUOTE FROM A MALE HERE SINCE YOU’RE TALKING ABOUT MALES)
[dos] “My parents were raised in the Philippines where parents aren’t open at all,” physiology junior Kristina Ranoso said. “I would definitely talk about (sex) with kids instead of just pretending that sexuality issues didn’t exist. I can’t say at what age to discuss it with them, but as soon as I saw it becoming an issue, I would talk about it with them to educate them about sex.”
Parents, in general, find it difficult to talk with their kids about sex, because of how taboo the subject has become. “If parents pretend that kids aren’t experimenting, kids might not get an important education, morals and attitudes about sex,” Ranoso said.

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